So I was thinking about this the other day, and wanted to make a post on it.
Is it weird to not have one main group of friends? Because I don’t.
I used to have a really hard time making friends and talking to people, but because my anxiety has majorly improved, it’s a lot easier for me now. I’ve managed to force myself out of my house and do more stuff this year instead of staying in my bedroom, and I’ve made new friendships.
But one thing that I’ve noticed is that I don’t really have one core group of friends. I hang out with lots of different groups, and my friends are kinda scattered and from all over the place. A lot of my friends don’t know each other.
Most of the times at parties I’ll just go around and talk to whoever. I’ll never really be in a group of people. Sometimes I’ll just end up standing alone, with not a lot of people to talk to.
I’ll see people with their one core group of friends that they are always hanging out with, like these certain 4 or 5 people. Sometimes one of them is missing, or sometimes someone new is added to the group, but for the most part it’s always this group doing pretty much everything together. At my tutorial. At parties. At events. At dances. For the most part they’re always together, and if some event happens and it goes on social media, it’s always them together. Like sometimes I wonder, do they have any other friends? XD
Sometimes I wish I had that. But other times I think it’s better to have different groups of friends, and not just one. A lot of times I’ll see these people be exclusive, and not open to adding more people to their group. Personally I don’t see the point to being exclusive. If you and I have stuff in common and click together, and I like you, sure, I’ll be your friend. I’m open to meeting new people.
So yeah, it used to kind of bother me but then I realized that it’s okay to not have a real group of friends. It’s okay to not always have someone to talk to at all times during parties.
I guess your happiness shouldn’t rely on the number of friends you have, or the number of people you hang out.
You can be just fine with a handful of good friends. I mean, I’d personally prefer that over having tons of friendly acquaintances that I call “friends.”
I also feel like I’d probably also start to become exclusive if I was part of a tight-knit group. XD I guess not having that makes me more open and welcoming, and not exclusive.
So what do you guys think? Do you agree, disagree?